{"id":182,"date":"2019-12-08T12:40:03","date_gmt":"2019-12-08T12:40:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/?page_id=182"},"modified":"2019-12-08T12:40:04","modified_gmt":"2019-12-08T12:40:04","slug":"what-is-a-sexaholic-and-what-is-sexual-sobriety","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/what-is-a-sexaholic-and-what-is-sexual-sobriety\/","title":{"rendered":"What is a Sexaholic and What is Sexual Sobriety?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>We can only speak for ourselves. The specialized nature of Sexaholics  Anonymous can best be understood in terms of what we call the <em>sexaholic<\/em>.  The sexaholic has taken himself or herself out of the whole context of  what is right or wrong. He or she has lost control, no longer has the  power of choice, and is not free to stop. Lust has become an  addiction.Our situation is like that of the alcoholic who can no longer  tolerate alcohol and must stop drinking altogether but is hooked and  cannot stop. So it is with the sexaholic, or sex drunk, who can no  longer tolerate lust but cannot stop. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thus, <em>for the sexaholic,<\/em> any form of sex with one\u2019s self or \nwith partners other than the spouse is progressively addictive and \ndestructive. We also see that lust is the driving force behind our \nsexual acting out, and true sobriety includes progressive victory over \nlust. These conclusions were forced upon us in the crucible of our \nexperiences and recovery; we have no other options. But we have found \nthat acceptance of these facts is the key to a happy and joyous freedom \nwe could otherwise never know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This will and should discourage many inquirers who admit to sexual  obsession or compulsion but who simply want to control and enjoy it,  much as the alcoholic would like to control and enjoy drinking. Until we  had been driven to the point of despair, until we really wanted to stop  but could not, we did not give ourselves to this program of recovery.  Sexaholics Anonymous is for those who know they have no other option but  to stop, and their own enlightened self-interest must tell them this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u00a9 1989, 2001 SA Literature.<\/em><br>\n<em> Reprinted with permission of SA Literature.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We can only speak for ourselves. The specialized nature of Sexaholics Anonymous can best be understood in terms of what we call the sexaholic. The sexaholic has taken himself or herself out of the whole context of what is right or wrong. He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice,&hellip;&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/what-is-a-sexaholic-and-what-is-sexual-sobriety\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Read More &raquo;<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">What is a Sexaholic and What is Sexual Sobriety?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"neve_meta_sidebar":"full-width","neve_meta_container":"default","neve_meta_enable_content_width":"on","neve_meta_content_width":100,"neve_meta_title_alignment":"","neve_meta_author_avatar":"","neve_post_elements_order":"","neve_meta_disable_header":"off","neve_meta_disable_footer":"off","neve_meta_disable_title":"off","footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-182","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/182","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=182"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/182\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":183,"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/182\/revisions\/183"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sa-israel.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=182"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}