Steps 6, 7, 10, and 11 can be challenging for me. They require commitment, consistency, and honesty. It took me 2 years to even get a minimum understanding of these steps. Steps 6 and 7 are hard for me – recognizing I have a character defect doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s leaving me yet. Steps 10 and 11 are hard for me because I find it difficult to work them every day. I think these four Steps are all connected because I have character defects that follow me around, which cause me to need a daily review and daily connection with my Higher Power.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Recently I\u2019ve been struggling with impatience. I am an impulsive person – I want what I want, when I want it. This character trait serves me well in particular situations. I get things done, I am reliable, and I am available – I\u2019m always checking my phone. But impatience also drives me crazy! I can be snappy; I lose my serenity easily when I don\u2019t get what I want, and a good percentage of the world isn\u2019t working at 2x speed. So I need to slow down a bit, I need to calm down, and I need to breathe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In these past few weeks, my HP has sent me the perfect challenge for my impatience – I\u2019ve been offered 2 jobs! Sounds good, right? Well, here\u2019s the catch – I need to choose one of them, and both<\/em> of my potential bosses are taking their time getting back to me! I\u2019ve been out of a job for 3 days now. I\u2019m sitting around, waiting for one of them to answer my questions about their offer. Then we\u2019ll need to sign a contract, and to top it off, there is a 3-day holiday later this week. A week and half have already gone by since this whole process began. Essentially, I must wait, I must be patient, and I must accept the things I cannot change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How do I work the Steps at this moment? For me, it\u2019s going to be 6, 7, 10, and 11. Through 6 and 7 I need to humbly ask G-d to remove my impatience and replace it with patience. I need to ask this of G-d over and over and accept that I don\u2019t know when this will be removed from me. I humbly ask G-d to remove from me the image I have painted in my head of how this situation should progress. I get on my knees when I am most afraid, and ask G-d to remove the need for instant gratification from me, and replace it with faith, love, and acceptance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Then come 10 and 11. Part of 10 and 11 is already covered in 6 and 7, because I have now done my daily maintenance and given it over to G-d. But don\u2019t worry – there\u2019s still more to do. In Step 10, I challenge myself – where am I right in this situation, and where am I wrong? When I let resentment grow at these potential bosses, is it justified anger? Even if it is justified, can I handle anger? No, I can\u2019t handle resentments; I can\u2019t carry a self-righteous gun in my heart, shooting everyone in my path. I can\u2019t stay sober that way. So, I need to surrender the anger. That\u2019s when I go to Step 11. I ask G-d to surrender the anger and show me the right next action. The greatest antidote to impulsivity is the right next action<\/em>. I do G-d\u2019s will in tiny steps and try to only make big decisions when I am serene and calm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I will not have all the answers. I don\u2019t know which boss will get back to me. I don\u2019t know where I will be working next week, or if I\u2019ll be working at all. But I\u2019m learning to have faith in the journey. The G-d that brought me here, that gave me both these offers, will be the G-d who will help me in a week from now. There is so much more to say, so many more tools I have learned. But I\u2019ll leave it here for now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Have a great day,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Allison <\/p>\n\n\n\n Get a fresh burst of recovery directly to your inbox, every Monday.<\/p>\n\n\n[mailjet_subscribe widget_id=”2″]\n\n\n\n Got something to share?<\/strong> Got feedback? Get in touch here. \u203a<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Steps 6, 7, 10, and 11 can be challenging for me. They require commitment, consistency, and honesty. 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